How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis: Kate Muir on Menopause, Brain Health and Midlife Transformation
Kate Muir on menopause, memory, brain health and midlife reinvention - plus the little-known link between estrogen and Alzheimer’s risk.
How to Have a Maginficent Midlife Crisis
Midlife: not a crisis, but a becoming.
A couple of weeks ago I had the pleasure of talking to author, documentary maker and women’s health and menopause campaigner, Kate Muir, about her brilliant new book, How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis.
Some of you might remember Kate from our 5x15 Bristol menopause special last year. She chaired a fascinating conversation with the writer, Sharon Blackie, which delved into the wise women of myth and folklore (featured in Sharon’s latest book). It was a special night in a candle-lit de-consecrated church. As they discussed giantesses and goddesses, witches and hags, they interwove their own stories of menopause and midlife transformation. The evening even gets a mention in Kate’s new book (yes, I was quietly chuffed when I spotted that)!
Wise Women: Menopause Special Event with Sharon Blackie and Kate Muir , 5×15 Bristol, October 2024
Launching How You Find Your Voice
So when I began shaping what How You Find Your Voice — and how to launch it — I thought of Kate. I felt that this book and the themes it explores, would be the perfect jumping off point for this new, platform, which is all about finding your passion and purpose. And voicing it.
I started HYFYV, as I’ve become obsessed with the idea of finding my voice; especially as a woman; especially as one navigating the messy middle part and the ever shifting sands of identity; especially as I hurtle towards the time of life when women are meant to become invisible, preferably unseen and unheard.
I know it’s not just me. So many women in my life have lost touch with their voice, (read their sense of self) during these big transitional times, whether they be motherhood, mental health crises, relationship breakdowns or (peri)/menopause. Sometimes it’s everything all at once: AKA the shit storm. Just one heady soup we’re swimming in, trying not to drown.
As I discovered from this conversation with Kate, women really do have a complete neurological, hormonal and mental overhaul three times in life. These points can be crisis points, but they are also potential moments of rebirth. This unshackling, this rebirth is what this project is all about. And this conversation captures all of these things.
Kate Muir
How She Found Her Voice
I asked Kate what set her on this path. “It was a really personal becoming political moment for me,” she said.
Her mum had just died of Alzheimer’s. Kate was working as a film critic, but started forgetting words — not obscure ones, but everyday things. One day she wrote shaver on a shopping list because she couldn’t remember the word razor. It scared her.
“I thought, this is me forgetting a domestic noun, like my mum had been doing. And I thought, I've got Alzheimer's. Rang my mates, said I've got Alzheimer's. They were like, no, you don't, you just need to go and get HRT, but nobody talks about it”
She got it privately. Within a week, her memory returned. The fog lifted. The heart palpitations stopped. She could speak without notes again.
And that’s when the bigger questions began. Why hadn’t she known menopause could affect memory? Why wasn’t this information readily available? What if this wasn’t just her story, but every woman’s?
“I was stunned,” she said. “Why couldn’t I, as a journalist, Google menopause and find that it causes memory loss and heart palpitations? Why didn’t I know there’s a new safer kind of HRT? What about all the other women losing their memories…losing their jobs?”
She described the moment she realised the scale of it:
“I thought, my God…this is the best story I've ever found in my career in journalism. And I had that animally tingly feeling that this was a great story that I was going to do everything I could to research and run with it.”
She met Dr Louise Newson, who taught her how to read science papers. She started learning how to decode headlines and dig into actual data. She discovered that she loved it, that this was her midlife calling: “I realized I love science and I love explaining science to people”
Most importantly, this wasn’t just about reclaiming her own mind. It was about helping other women keep theirs.
A light bulb moment
The Mind- Hormone Link
The more she learnt, the more she came to understand the profound effect hormones have on mental health, but also on the physical health of the brain.
She discovered that women make up two-thirds of Alzheimer’s diagnoses and that oestrogen has a powerful role to play in protecting memory and cognition.
“It was like a big detective story,” she said. “And then when Alzheimer’s came into it — and the good news started to grow — I became obsessed with winning the menopause battle against the people saying, ‘just drink sage tea and carry on.’ That is absolute bollocks.”
Kate is passionate about educating women about the link between menopause and mental health. As you’ll see if you watch the recording, Kate’s a real hoot! We chatted about everything from testosterone improving your orgasms to the unexpected upsides of vaginal estrogen, which she describes as being, “like Chanel for your vagina.”
“vaginal estrogen... ‘like Chanel for your vagina’”
Kate might describe herself as ‘Presbyterian’, but she’s certainly not prudish, nor one to shy away from a frank discussion about bodily functions - or her experiences. You can see why the women in the book were happy to share their stories with her. She was very generous in what she shared about her life and her own, self-described Thelma and Louise style car crash of a midlife crisis. Ultimately, she wrote this book so other women wouldn’t make such a mess of it, as she claims she did.
What I learnt
I so enjoyed our conversation. My only regret is that I didn’t manage to cover everything I wanted to ask. I had been wrangling children all day and was feeling particularly frazzled by the time event drew round, which just underlines why the burning question for me, and the one I forgot, was about what I see as ‘the other midlife squeeze’.
In the book, Kate describes midlife as a ‘sniper’s alley’, with everything coming at you all at once. I wish I’d asked her about the women in the squeeze of late motherhood and perimenopause; what had she discovered about the cohort of women having all these symptoms whilst also (potentially) breastfeeding and raising small children, with all the demands that entails. The women who are intensively mothering, whilst also trying to wrestle back some sense of self, have a career, and stave off hormonal surges or tides of rage. There are an increasing number of us now.
“I wish I’d asked her about the women in the squeeze of late motherhood and perimenopause; what had she discovered about the cohort of women having all these symptoms whilst also (potentially) breastfeeding and raising small children, with all the demands that entails?”
Kate has so much to say and is such a wealth of information that there wasn’t time to cover it all. But we covered a lot and here are some oft he most fascinating snippets…
Here are my top 6 take-aways:
1. Your brain is rewiring. Literally.
Women’s brains rewire three times in their lives; puberty, motherhood and menopause. During menopause, the brain switches fuel sources - from glucose to ketones - which can cause brain perimenopause brain fog, confusion, and memory loss. It’s not imagined, and it’s not inevitable. With the right support, clarity returns. For Kate, memory came back within a week of starting HRT.
Kate did a mini slide show to demonstrate some of the brain science. Here is a small section:
She also talked about the concept of “baby brain” and yes, it’s a thing and no, you’re not stupid.
“You know, so the idea that you get baby brain and you're stupid and you forget stuff, no, you're getting a rewiring, which is making you more emotionally astute for a lot of people.”
Turns out it’s an upgrade! Though admittedly it doesn’t feel like it at the time.
2. Vaginal estrogen is life-changing — and no one tells you.
One of the biggest revelations from Kate’s talk was how local vaginal estrogen can transform quality of life. It helps rebuild the vaginal walls, supports the bladder, improves collagen, and reduces stress incontinence. But more than that, it restores the vaginal microbiome by supporting lactobacilli, the healthy bacteria that protect against UTIs and inflammation. It’s safe, long-term, and under-prescribed.
3. Late-diagnosed ADHD? You’re not alone.
Menopause doesn’t just bring hot flushes. It can unmask long-masked neurodivergence. Kate shared how many women discover ADHD or autism in their 40s and 50s, often after years of misdiagnosis or over-functioning. Hormonal shifts reveal what was always there. This is the other-other midlife squeeze. I feel like I could be part of this cohort of late-diagnosed ADHS in women: in the Venn diagram of Peri, undiagnosed ADHD and midlife, you might well find my face, squished and misshapen in the middle.
4. HRT isn’t what they told you it was.
Forget the outdated scare stories. There’s a new, safer form of HRT — body-identical and backed by science — that can protect the brain, bones, heart, and mood. Kate’s own story shows how quickly things can shift with the right support. Women are still hesitant to go on HRT due to previous, now debunked research. But the damage has been done and the messaging hasn’t quite caught up. The HRT benefits for women seem very compelling.
5. Midlife isn’t a crisis — it’s a calling.
Men have owned the midlife crisis narrative and clichés for too long. Women haven’t really been allowed to express the full complexities of their lived experiences, though that is changing. And we need to hear these stories and challenges to counteract all the ‘negging’. Midlife doesn’t need to be a time of decline, but a time of renewal- a time for midlife reinvention. With the right information, the right approach, midlife is a powerful time, a reckoning – and often a creative awakening. According to Kate, it’s during these years that women start finding their voices. Here is a small snippet of Kate talking about the concept of ‘becoming’:
6. There’s a link between menopause and Alzheimer’s — and we’re not talking about it.
Women make up two-thirds of people diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. New research suggests falling oestrogen levels during perimenopause and menopause may be a key factor in that risk, especially for women with a genetic predisposition. Starting body-identical HRT at the right time can help protect long-term brain health. Kate is passionate about getting this message out - because if more women knew, fewer might suffer in silence or miss the chance to act early.
“Women make up two-thirds of people diagnosed with Alzheimer’s”
Listen to the replay
There’s such a wealth of insight, information and lived experience in this conversation. If you missed it — or want to hear the whole story — you can watch the full replay HERE.
Further Reading
Here is a list of some of the books Kate mentioned in this conversation, for anyone wanting to go deeper into menopause, midlife, and creative transformation. These are some of the best books out there on menopause and midlife.
Everything You Need to Know About the Menopause (But Were Too Afraid to Ask), by Kate Muir
The book that started it all — part memoir, part manifesto, and packed with science. Accessible, urgent, and surprisingly funny.
The XX Brain, by Dr. Lisa Mosconi
Essential reading on how menopause affects the female brain — and how to protect long-term cognitive health. Kate references this throughout her work.
The Definitive Guide to the Perimenopause and Menopause, by Dr. Louise Newson
Clear, practical, and evidence-based. A great companion to Kate’s book if you want actionable advice.
All Fours, by Miranda July
The novel Kate said made her feel seen — a wild, intimate, and strange exploration of midlife reinvention, art, motherhood, and desire. “Very dirty,” she warned us.
The Menopause Brain, by Dr. Lisa Mosconi (2024)
Follow-up to The XX Brain with even more on Alzheimer’s, hormone therapy, and neurological protection.
Follow Kate on Substack
Kate’s recently started a Substack account and it’s really informative and engaging so check it out: here.
How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis, by Kate Muir
And of course, last but not least, I recommend this book for an inspiring and eye-opening read and a handy tool-kit to get you through the messy middle section.
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Bring Back the Dinosaurs
Sitting in the Bristol Museum with my three year old the other day, three dinosaur books down, I came across this little beauty, “Dinosaurs and All That Rubbish” and was struck by its prescience.
Written in 1972 by Michael Foreman, it’s a cautionary tale for our times, that uncannily seems to have predicted the bizarre, billionaire bro space race between Musk and Bezos. Hear me out. The story features a super wealthy man of industry who becomes fixated on a star in the sky. “I must fly” said the man./ I have money./ I have many men working for me./ I must fly, somehow I must fly”. So he channels his energy and power into building a rocket to reach this star. Sound familiar yet? In so doing, he plunders and pollutes the earth, but he reaches his star.
Meanwhile, the dinosaurs return and stamp on all the rubbish scattered across the industrial wasteland that was once the earth. They stamp and stamp and clear it away. Soon, it is said that under their protection, “green shoots appeared/ bursting through cracks and climbing over forgotten walls”. The longed-for star is a let down (hello Oscar Wilde quote).
So the man sets off to conquer yet more stars but boomerangs back to good old Gaia again instead. He doesn’t even recognise the planet he left behind, so transformed is it by the diligent dinosaurs. After a dressing down by a brontosaurus, the moral of the tale is clear, “the earth belongs to everyone, not parts of it to certain people/ but all of it to everyone, to be enjoyed and cared for”. The sky rings with the sounds of the birds and beasts proclaiming this truth. That is the end of that, we assume. Lesson learnt.
Perhaps in the 70s the idea of an individual funding and achieving space exploration was as far-fetched as the idea of, say, dinosaurs returning. Who knows, maybe let me know in the comments if you remember that decade and the original space race of the 60s. However, this children’s story is actually the teensiest bit true.
The space race is hotting up and with it the atmosphere. They say that increased space exploration comes with climate costs: pollution, carbon emissions and even environmental risk from falling space debris and harmful chemical substances. What on earth is going on?! Shouldn’t we be funnelling everything into fixing our own planet before we go off and colonise Mars? What do you think? I think it might just be time to bring back the dinosaurs. Or failing that, maybe someone should send Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos a copy of, “Dinosaurs and All That Rubbish”. It’ll be available on Amazon after all.
In midlife, motherhood and murky times
The act of ‘finding’ implies that something is lost. So, is this something we’ve lost or something we are yet to uncover? Why do we lose our voices? What causes us to lose our confidence, our sense of self and identity? Most importantly, how do we get it back? Perhaps we once knew who we were, but somehow it’s faded along the way.
As someone currently navigating the maelstrom of middle age, motherhood and perimenopause, I’m fascinated by this question: how do we hold onto our sense of self during life’s turbulent times? As we find ourselves buffeted by the winds of change, how do we stay our course? Or, do we seek out distant shores? How do we find the courage to sail into the unknown?
Well, cheesy maritime metaphors aside, that’s precisely what I’m setting out to do. I feel I have very much lost my voice in various ways, over the past few years, and I’m obsessed with this topic and in these liminal stages of life.
I am on a mission to get my mojo back and re-discover my voice. I suspect it’s in the doing; that finding your voice is in the using of it, which is why I’m embarking on this little project, to share thoughts, struggles, ideas. Basically to use my voice, instead of muting it and lurking in the shadows.
This is a work in progress. I am a work in progress (aren’t we all?) I hope that these discoveries might be useful to you too. I have a hunch that it’s through these times of upheaval that we find out who we really are. It might feel overwhelming and fucking hard, but in the crucible of change, the dross in burnt away and all that remains is… hopefully the real you. An alchemical voila! I’ll keep you posted on that one.
So, I invite you to join me on this voyage (ahem) of curiosity, vulnerability and uncertainty. I am going to try out different techniques and ideas and look at this question from all angles; personal, cultural, societal, biological, mythical - even mystical. I’m going to delve into topics that are murky or a little uncomfortable, things that need to be talked about, things that perhaps feel uneasy in the speaking. All this I offer up to you, who might be in a similar place, on a similar quest. Maybe, just maybe, we’ll find our voices along the way.
So how do you find your voice?
Well, this, my friend, is what I am on a mission to find out.
What does ‘finding your voice’ even mean? What does it mean to you? To me, it’s multi-layered. On one level, it’s simply about the act of speaking, of pushing past feeling shy or tongue-tied. But, on a deeper level, it’s about finding your confidence, your purpose and your unique expression, creatively and in the world. It’s about being authentic to who you are and owning it. Unapologetically.
There seem to be two parts to it: knowing who you are and being willing to express that in the world. There is definitely a self-worth piece in there too. As Madonna would say, “express yourself, don’t repress yourself.” Simple, but sage advice and easier said than done.
OK, so most people have a voice, but who has a ‘voice’? Writers have a voice. Activists use their voice. Singers (obviously) have particularly appealing voices…comedians, politicians, entrepreneurs, teachers, your boss, your next-door neighbour, that influencer on social media…anyone who is getting an idea across or sharing something of themselves in the wider world has a ‘voice’.
So how do we find this ‘voice’? How can we wield it? What steps must we take to be completely and uniquely ourselves? What inner work needs to be done and what wisdom can be gleaned from those who have found and are using their voices? How did they do it? Well, that’s what this little project is about.
I’m going to draw inspiration from fascinating people who have found their voices in myriad ways. Think people who use their voices to stand up for what they believe in and make an impact on the world. Think writers and artists who have found, through trial and error, their distinctive style and creative vision. Think people who have overcome adversity and gone on to share their gift with the world. I’m going to see how exactly they did it and (digging deep) will use my own voice, in conversation with some of these amazing people, to hear their stories and learn from them.
Stories are powerful catalysts for change and my hope is that their wisdom and sharing will inspire you too.
Why Mary Beard’s “Women & Power: A Manifesto” is More Relevant Today Than Ever
Mary Beard’s, Women & Power: A Manifesto is more relevant today than ever in the lead up to the US presidential election. With online abuse against female politicians at an all time high, now is the time for women’s voices to be heard.
Recently, I’ve been thinking about what stops us, women, from using our voices and speaking up in the public arena. What is this silencing mechanism, both internal and societal, that mutes many of us? From public speaking to politics, women are still underrepresented in the Venn diagram of power and voice. A recent report by the United Nations shows that, “At the current rate, gender equality in the highest positions of power, will not be reached for another 130 years.” That is a sobering statistic in the lead up to the US presidential election. It certainly sheds some light on why, in 2024, are we still asking the question of whether the world is ready for Madame - as opposed to Mr - President. How is it that leadership and oratory are still seen as male pursuits? Well, there’s no one better to turn to for wisdom on this topic, than Mary Beard.
Women & Power: A Manifesto by Mary Beard.
The subject of women and power (and our historical lack thereof) may be no laughing matter, but I found myself chuckling away to, “Women & Power: A Manifesto”. With wry wit and razor sharp insight, Beard elucidates the absurdity of long-held attitudes towards women taking up space (and airwaves) on the public stage. Her stated aim for the manifesto is, “to explain how deeply embedded in Western culture are the mechanisms that silence women, that refuse to take them seriously, and that sever them from the centre of power.” She traces these attitudes back to the dawn of Western civilization and picks out the parallels with our present day. She also highlights the ramifications for women who raise their voices and heads above the parapet. And spoiler alert: it ain’t pretty.
Mary Beard (photo credit to The Times)
Beard could legitimately claim expertise on the subject of online abuse, one akin to her grasp of ancient history: the vitriol she has suffered herself is sobering. She could quite literally give seminars on it. The New Yorker, describes her as, “troll slayer” which, to my mind, is a suitably heroic-sounding epithet for Britain’s “best known classicist”. Yet, the term is hard-won. Beard downplays it in her characteristic manner and almost glosses over the terror implicit in the death and rape threats she has received. She gives the impression of someone who can handle having her genitals compared to rotten vegetables, but stoicism aside, the admission that she is abused every single time she goes on radio or TV is truly shocking.
And for what reason? What could a fiercely intelligent, wickedly funny Cambridge classicist possibly have done to deserve this? Beard first seems to have garnered attention after appearing on the panel show Question Time. Other infractions include having the gall to present a documentary wearing – shock horror – no make-up and daring to leave her hair grey and au naturel. Beard was also lampooned for arguing that Roman Britain was ethnically diverse. What right does she, a world-leading classicist, have to give an opinion on ancient history and her own area of expertise. Outrageous!
“It is not what you say that prompts it, it’s simply the fact that you are saying it.”
And that’s the thing. As Beard points out in the manifesto, it is the speaking itself that is the perceived crime: “it is not what you say that prompts it, it’s simply the fact that you are saying it.” In other words, women are still, in the 21st century, being shamed into silence (or at least that is the intended outcome) for daring to have an opinion or to say anything on the public stage. And why? Because: patriarchy.
Depressingly, though unsurprisingly, it’s men who are levelling this abuse against women, systemically and individually. Instead of the agora or public forum, it’s the public arena of social media and the comment sections on websites, where women are flogged and shamed. As Beard points out, “when it comes to silencing women, Western culture has had thousands of years of practice.” It’s by no means all men, but there is a small sector, the alt Right or the bro trolls, who clearly still believe that women’s tongues should be metaphorically (and sometimes not so metaphorically) excised.
Indeed, for thousands of years, public speaking was seen to be synonymous with maleness. Beard argues that the roots of our attitudes towards power and one’s right to speak, our “templates” for power and authority, stem from the oratory of Cicero and the deeply held belief that rhetoric and the art of public speaking is a man’s domain. The manifesto is littered with examples that demonstrate this, from Telemachus in The Odyssey, telling his mother to get back to her loom, to the ‘hilarious’ concept of a woman run state in Arsistophanes’ Lysistrata.
A depiction of Aristophanes’ Lysistrata
And it is politics, as in actual power, read, the traditional seats of male power, that Beard is mostly concerned with here. Politicians certainly seem to be in the firing line. Throughout the book, Beard gives examples of hideous invective that contemporary female politicians have suffered, from misogynnistic memes to deeply dark death threats. Notable examples are Angela Merkel and Hilary Clinton, who both endured extensive comparisons to Medusa (and worse). You know, Medusa, the gorgon, famous for her writhing snake hair and ability to petrify anything that gazed upon her. She was beheaded by Perseus and used as a talisman on Athena’s shield. A perfect symbol indeed for the violent silencing of powerful women.
Putting personal politics aside, clearly this sort of trolling is far from acceptable. I am, in fact, putting personal politics aside here, as political persuasions or parties are not relevant to the task at hand. What all these politicians have in common is that they are a) women and b) trolled and that they are trolled precisely because they are women. Yes, male politicians might get lampooned too, though it will (usually) be for what they have done, rather than because of an intrinsic part of who they are. Unless of course they are an ethnic minority.
Hilary Clinton as Medusa (source Wikepedia)
Diane Abbot is one of the UK’s longest-standing MPs and has received more vitriol than is fathomable, over the course of her career. She is also both black and a woman. Beard references the abuse Diane Abbot received (unacceptable amounts of criticism for muddling the figures on her party’s policing policy) as an example of how women are judged more harshly than their male counterparts. Boris Johnson, though similarly bumbling, got off much more lightly during that same campaign. Since this manifesto was written in 2017, the situation seems worse, if anything. When Nicola Sturgeon announced her resignation last year, she stated that the political landscape for women was “much harsher and more hostile” than she had ever experienced adding that,
“Social media provides a vehicle for the most awful abuse of women, misogyny, sexism and threats of violence for women who put their heads above the parapet,”
Helen Maher, who was a candidate in the June 2024 UK election, was reportedly asked for photos of her feet and whether she was on OnlyFans. Although, this example is slightly comical, research shows that the reality of all this unwanted attention is putting women off entering politics. And that’s precisely what the misogynists want.
It’s perhaps a particularly apposite time to be considering these issues. The US presidential election is less than a week away and, just as Clinton before her, Kamala Harris finds herself in the firing line for daring to make a bid for power. It is interesting that Harris has avoided centering her campaign on race or gender. She said in a recent interview, “I believe I’m the best person to do this job, at this moment, for all Americans, regardless of race and gender.” This is quite the contrast to Hilary Clinton’s tactics in her 2016 campaign, in which she wore white to symbolize the suffragists and repeatedly talked of shattering the glass ceiling. It’s a savvy move and one learnt from the failure of the Clinton campaign: it doesn’t pay to play “the woman card” in politics. Especially not at this level. Clinton didn’t lose solely on account of her gender; for a large part of the electorate she also seems to have represented everything they disliked about the intellectual and political elite. However, clearly the whole '“making history” angle wasn’t appealing to many voters - and it’s a narrative Harris is keen to avoid.
Hilary Clinton, U.S Presidential Election 2016
Again, this is something that Beard addresses directly, when examining the tendency for female politicians, from Margaret Thatcher to Angela Merkel, to employ in part, the “androgyne” tactic. She writes, “we have no template for what a powerful woman looks like, except that she looks rather like a man. The regulation trouser suits…are also a simple tactic- like lowering the timbre of the voice - to make the female appear more male, to fit the part of power.” It might be savvy to downplay the gender card and perhaps essential if Harris wants to win, but it’s depressing nonetheless. How long will women have to ape men and contort themselves, to be always “perceived as belonging outside of power”?
The Harris campaign unofficially acknowledge a coded sexism at play in the language voters use to pollsters. “She’s not ready”: read, “we’re not ready for a female president.” Similarly, the language Trump uses of himself when he talks of his strength, feeds into male political tropes. Strength is shorthand for “maleness”, whereas being a woman denotes “weakness”. Indeed, the age-old sexist and misogynist jibes are out in full force in this election that is all about gender, although not overtly stated as being so. The outcome of the presidential campaign is yet unknown, but Harris has already won the title of the most attacked American politician on the internet. And quelle surprise. Not only is she a woman who holds power, but she’s a woman of colour. The sexist and racist fury against her started to crescendo after she was announced as Biden’s running mate. Here’s a little taster of some of the sweet-nothings Harris received. As the Emily List pressure group explains, “Stereotypes and tropes centred around diminishing the qualifications, leadership, looks, relationships and experience of women candidates for office are always part and parcel with her campaign. This is exacerbated for women of color.”
The higher you soar the hotter the hate. So, what to do about it? In her own life, Beard advocates calling the perpetrators out; a reverse public shaming, if you will, with a dollop of humour thrown in. When A.A. Gill snidely remarked that she was more suited to being a contestant on The Undatables than to TV presenting, her retort was an acerbic but good-humoured piece in The Daily Mail. Its title: “Too Ugly for TV? No, I’m Too Brainy for Men Who Fear Clever Women.” Pow! She also famously befriended a few of her detractors after publicly naming and shaming them and even provided one with a job reference.
For women in politics, the answer is clearly to keep going, to keep showing up. There isn’t an alternative. But something more radical needs to change in our collective conception of power itself. As Beard summarises,
“You can’t easily fit women into a structure that is already coded as male; you have to change the structure. That means thinking about power differently.”
She cites collective, non prestige-driven power as an example of this; the Black Lives Matter movement has been incredibly and powerfully effective, started as it was, by three women with no celebrity status. There is power in using our voices. Women should not silence themselves for fear of criticism. Yes, it’s easier said than done, but there’s no point cutting our own tongues out to appease this dark, shadowy part of the male online psyche. That small, but vocal minority, are more than happy to do that for us. The world doesn’t need women to mute themselves. Surely part of the the answer, at least, resides in more visibility and more voice. We need to use our voices loudly and collectively.
Beard concludes that, “the picture overall…is gloomy. We have not got anywhere near subverting these foundational stories of power that serve to keep women out of it." Seven years on, this is as true now as it was then. If Kamala Harris does succeed in becoming the first female president of the United States, it would be a step closer to rewriting the story. The reverse is also true. Whatever happens at the polls across America next week, we need to rewrite what power looks like and redefine its terms to truly make space for women. That’s only going to happen if women continue to speak up, share their voices and put themselves forward on the public stage. Yes, women still have to pay a very high price for being heard, but the alternative is much more costly.